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THREE IMPORTANT BENEFITS OF TRUE FRIENDSHIPS

hand-photography-love-finger-arm-swirl-1202962-pxhere.comFriendship is a gift to us all. I am not using the loose term “friends” in initiating these thoughts, but friendship. This is because I am writing about the concept itself and not the simplistic reference to persons we are acquainted with. More so because I am seeking to unearth the deeper dynamics of the operation of the concept in human interaction. So let me quickly share three benefits you enjoy when you find true friendship.

REAL CONVERSATIONS:

Imagine having something to say and not having someone to tell. Imagine also having someone to tell but not having reliable and trusted feedback. Words flow from thoughts and expressed through the lips. However, that process isn’t complete or fulfilling until it is received by another thought process and responded to in an active conversation. Conversations help encapsulate the complexities of life into relatable soundbites that humanize our experience through resonance with another person’s journey.

We were made to communicate, and through this process unburden the mind and heart, that is, the thoughts and emotions layered by the roiling issues we face each day. Conversations help unbundle perceptions, positions, and prejudices we have mustered because they are constantly challenged by other opinions and worldview.

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HEARING AND SEEING GOD IN YOUR LIFE

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For the patient minded, read on.

One of the most frustrating things that we often have to deal with in our lives is the question of the existence of God. If you are human, you probably would have pondered on the issue and wondered if at the end this was all a big lie. Often times, you rebuke the thought and “keep the faith” because you have been taught to believe the consequences of streaming along that thought is quite dire, and damnation awaits the one who finalises that position. For those who have pushed that envelop further, it can take a course requiring some empirical evidence, such as saying “if you are God, can you…”, or “if you really exist, blow some cool air on my face”.

Even for those who tend to take their faith in God seriously, there are moments when they arrive at a seeming inaneness of it all, staying spiritually aloof for a time and floating in the nothingness of conviction. It can be quite painful and grievous for some. Most will deflect the matter from causing pain and pray out something like this: “I wish You would speak to me and let me hear you beyond any reasonable doubt”. Oh! The number of times I have wallowed in those moments, even after extended periods of deeply fulfilling spiritual renewals. 

We are often challenged with the concern of building our faith on what we have heard and received from others, or sources other than the self. We hear others speak glowingly of encounters with God and we rejoice momentarily, sometimes shiver from an attack of goosebumps, and join a collective frenzied expression of exuberant praise. However, we soon settle back to human nature and realise how dominant our emotions have played a huge part of what we profess. While this isn’t  necessarily demeaning, it leaves much to be desired; for we are yet to touch something more tangible to our inner person, and we know it.

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CAVEAT!!! FOR BROTHERS ONLY: TOP 14 BIBLICAL WAYS TO GET A WIFE.

Before I start let me warn again. You shouldn’t be reading this if you are not a brother. The consequences are quite dire like immediately displaying some male qualities not to be mentioned here. I have randomized the list below, so it is in no particular order. So please take your pick wisely and may the force of life guide your choice. Here we go:

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RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS

Let me share something I’m embarking on more consciously this weekend. It’s not that I do not practice this often, but some how we are rarely deliberate about our acts of kindness and usually just respond involuntarily to others in a kind way. But I have since discovered that when you are purposeful with you act of kindness, it tends to prompt a repeat performance. Interestingly, a repeat performance on two fronts. First is that you the initiator feels a sense of satisfaction deep down and you begin seeking for other opportunities to reenact the circumstances in which you display kindness. Second, the receiver is more aware of the act of kindness in his favour and most likely will be full of gratitude and memory that an opportunity will also be sought to prove the capacity for kindness as well. I have seen this dynamic work over and over that it is beyond a theoretical assumption. Kindness will always beget kindness. So this weekend I am deliberately going to nourish my soul with random acts of kindness, especially to strangers I have never met before. If you believe in the concept of six degrees of separation, I could convince you then that it will take probably six cycles for an act of kindness to find its way back to you :D. You don’t believe me? Try it for yourself.
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