My dad often chastised me with potent words and phrases so weighty that I had to research their meaning. An example is a quote from William Shakespeare’s Henry IV, where the character Falstaff declares, “The better part of valour is discretion.” He would hammer those words into my consciousness whenever I displayed a passionate but narrow focus on accomplishing something, often at the expense of other important matters.
Dad thought of my teenage passions as unguided fervour, lacking the balancing virtue of wisdom. I disagreed most of the time, but now I have come to deeply appreciate what he meant. Looking back, I recognize the many near-tragedies that would have befallen me had it not been for the power of circumspection. Yes, valour (courage and bravery) has opened many doors for me, leading to numerous victories. But the better side of the story is that discretion taught me which battles to fight and how to win them.
Thoughts of a Calabarboy. 